Wednesday, June 26, 2013

Why Wasn't I Adopted?

"Why wasn't I adopted?"  That was the question the Girl asked at dinner tonight.  Never mind that I carried her in my belly for nine months.  Never mind the fear in my heart when she was born with a cleft palate & could only drink from a special bottle that cost $30.00 a pop.  Never mind that she is everything & I could ever want in a daughter.  She wants to go & get adopted.  True story, she told me so.

I'm going to cut her a little bit of slack because the family she wants to get adopted into is a very special family.  We are blessed to have this family in our lives.  They are the perfect example of family.  Again, true story.

At dinner we were talking about how our friends are finally going to be able to adopt their youngest two children soon.  Our friends have 7 children, all of whom are adopted.  Our friends have been foster parents for many years, and in the process have adopted 5 beautiful children.  The youngest two, who are 6 & 4, were suppose to be adopted several years ago, but thanks to the biological father & a screwed up legal system, they've encountered more bumps in the road than you can imagine.  Today, they got the phone call that bio dad's rights have been terminated & he did not contest.  AMEN!!!  My girlfriend has had a kind of crummy week thus far, so this was just the pick me up she needed.

Even with 7 kids, my friend 'M', will do anything for anybody.  She is the first person to ask, "how can I help" when their is a crisis at your home.  If you are under the weather, she will offer to take your kids so you can rest.  If you are running late to pick up your kids after school, she is there to help out.  If you need to vent because things are crappy, 'M' is there.  In my eyes, she is part of the pot of gold of friends that I have made since we moved back to our hometown 5 1/2 years ago.

Let me also tell you this:  another thing that I love about my friend is that she is not one bit pretentious.  She is as real as they come.  I've seen her raise her voice with her children, & I've seen her follow through with discipline.  She interacts with them & takes them places.  She'll be there at the park playing with her children--ALL OF THEM!!  I wish I had her energy.  However, she knows how to let them trip & fall & learn from their mistakes, always letting them know that she loves them. 

We have a small group of us who meet once a month for Girls Night Out, but we've modified it a bit.  Ours is Girls Taco Night, and we meet up around 8:00-9:00pm on a weeknight.  After our husbands are home with the kiddos.  This woman has us in her home.  We all bring a dish & we sit & chat.  Or vent.  Or have a margarita.  Or two.  Her home is welcome to anyone of us at anytime. 

She is a friend.  She is a wife.  She is a Mom.  Her kids came to her differently than my kids came to me, but she is an example that all Mommy's should follow.  And I am so excited that the day is closer than ever for her & her husband to finally able to make the two Littles in their family "legal".

Yep, I'm sure there will be a giant giant celebration coming soon.  Perhaps this is why the Girl wants to be adopted into 'M's' house; every girl loves a party, right?  Or perhaps it's the wonderful family we've become friends with. 

About 4 years ago, I was driving home from the first kids consignment sale that I'd ever been to (guess what Mommy told me about it?), when I heard this wonderful song on the radio.  It was a song from a Dad to his adopted child.  I knew I wanted to include it for you tonight, but for the life of me, couldn't find it.  Of course, I couldn't remember who sang it.  Or even what the name of it was.  HAVE NO FEAR!!!  I found that song, & would like to share it with you & ask that you think of my awesome friend & her wonderful family.
                                             You start with hope
The wait can make you cry
Unanswered prayers
Things turn, you wonder why
 
The road can take you where it wants
Sometimes you have to just let go to hear life's song
 
It's meant to be
It was written in the stars
For us to see
A little angel to be ours
We're a family
We'll tell you where you came from
But you were born in our heart
 
Faith lights your path
Then one day lets you in
Inside the dream
Of something never seen
 
The beauty of your little smile
Each little sound you make
Takes our breath away
 
It's meant to be
It was written in the stars
For us to see
A little angel to be ours
We're a family
We'll tell you where you came from
But you were born from our hearts
 
Mr Ray (Ray Andersen)

3 comments:

  1. I met M a long time ago. She worked in the same school where I taught. The teacher she worked for always had good things to say about her. She was great with the kids in that room. I'm glad you met her and she is now your friend. Congrats to M and hubby on the adoption coming through. Love Mom

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  2. What a beautiful post and wonderful testimony to your friends. It has been a long road, but both them and the children couldn't be more blessed with the outcome. It is always wonderful to have friends like you in their corner supporting them!

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  3. After publishing this blog, I realized that there was so much more that I wanted to say about my friend, but I hope that I got the point across. That being that so many of us are better people for having this family in our lives. :)

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